There are 2 sets of people in this world. 1 who tends to feel distressed after something goes wrong be that career or personal front, 2nd are like a rubber band, no matter how much you stretch them they will set back to normal. They may experience illness, bad luck, things going opposite to what was planned, or unsatisfactory moves in their careers. No matter how hard life tries to stretch them they manage to find their way to get back to their original shape.
Do you know what brings them back to shape?
It is Resilience, the ability to come back to your normal state after life has bent you hard. I must say in my leadership journey this is what I value the most, the strength of accepting a situation and fighting back yourself to be back in a neutral state of mind where one shall feel satisfied and shall not regret what has happened. We do not have every situation under our control, certain times in a business, job, or personal relationship we do come across hard times, and we do see life going in another way and not as we planned. But that is fine, this is what life is and not every time things will go our way. We cannot hold anything in our hand but what we do hold is SATISFACTION, the contentment of whatever happened whether good or bad. Satisfaction is the key to leading a balanced and peaceful life.
Is Resilience easy to adapt to?
NO, it isn’t easy to learn. The learning process requires a mishap to happen first; it can be the loss of a business, getting a devastating illness, family separations, or anything of similar nature. The most important step is to set the discipline that you chose to overcome the setback. It is not an overnight process, one needs to get up every day to face the same thing which shook you up but then remember, there must be something good hiding behind that harsh truth that you are not able to see at the moment. Believe that what has happened has happened for good and no matter what I will move on and try again. This feeling of satisfaction is so positive that it gives you a lot of courage to get up and move on.
There was a time in my professional life when I thought that I had lost everything that I had. It was from the initial days of my career when I started my own business. I still remember the time when getting up from bed and facing the social world was the toughest task for me, but I knew and believed that this is not the end and I will have to recuperate from the hitch. I then thought maybe life has given me another chance to learn from my mistake and suffer this loss in the very initial stage. Had I not had that loss I would never have learned the lessons that one specific incident taught me and I would have been making the same mistake after years of achieving success and then falling badly. Looking back today I feel thankful for the positive approach that I kept which gave me the courage to cover up the setback and win the world all over again. I am here today living a proud life of being a Co-founder of a Wealth Management firm guiding you all with the experience that I had.
Stay confident that what has happened, happened for good, and define discipline for yourself which will certainly help you to rise from the fall. Nothing is permanent, if good days don’t stay forever then even the bad days too don’t stay forever, time changes and the 1 who is positive, confident, and satisfied is the one who is ready to rise and shine.
Yash Joshi is a Certified Financial Planner (CFP) from FPSB, USA. He is VP – Private Wealth at UpperCrust Wealth Pvt. Ltd. and has been associated with the Financial sector for more than 5 years.
